Goals are about change so once we’ve defined our 2017 goals, our ability to change (or not) defines our success.
If you’re running a company, a great strategy is nothing without great execution. It’s the same with our individual change, it doesn't happen unless there’s more than just a vision and some goals. Personally, some of the bigger goals I’ve had in my life have taken longer than I’d planned. And that’s ok given our non-conscious minds run 95% of our actions, sometimes we don’t really understand why we can’t make the change we’ve so desired. Dedication can wane. things get in the way and there are lessons to be learnt.
I believe we need to understand more of the ‘why’, not only ‘what' in our goals. Why are we aiming for this goal? Why aren’t we prioritising our dedication to the goal?Why do we choose an alternative route that blocks us from achieving our goals?
I love Robert Kegan’s Immunity to Change work. It defines a way of working through what’s underneath our resistance to individual change. It promotes self-awareness and with increased self-awareness, change can be quicker and simpler.
My preference in life has never been for too much detail but good planning and checking-in closely with your goal regularly makes success far easier.
My 8 step plan is below:
- Define your vision with the end in mind - what image do you want to see at the end of 2017.
- Define your improvement goals
- Get into the detail. What’s the current state, what are you currently doing or not doing towards the goal. What competing commitments do you have? What are your blocks? Why do you think you aren’t dedicated or prioritising this change? What big assumptions are you really making?
- Write your action plan in phases with review points throughout the year, months or weeks.
- Taking a growth approach. Don’t ditch it just because you have one bad day or a bad week, pick it up again tomorrow or the next hour and keep going. What did you learn? What emotions did you feel? What blocks appeared?
- Be your own cheer squad. Practice positive self-reinforcement daily and focus on creating new neural pathways. Release the negative - write it down when you don’t feel great, rather than allowing it to become a negative mind loop
- Get real support - someone who’s involved and wanting the same things you want and will support your upward, positive movement
- Don’t forget to take regular reviews
A great 14 min video from Robert Kegan on why we find it hard to change. The filming is not great but the content is. Or, listen with audio only :-)
Have a great year from The Change Rooms